Big Rona

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Hi there. Before I get into anything, I wanted to address the massive elephant in our lives: COVID19. I send my deepest condolences to those that have experienced loss due to COVID19, my biggest vibes of health and healing to those battling COVID19, and my loudest cheer to those on the front lines helping the world beat this.

I am amazed that something like this has happened in our world. Watching the numbers increase dramatically is quite a bit mindblowing. We all are being impacted by the same, spooky thing. I hope that despite the devastation COVID19 has created, the world can unify together to fight it and come together as a collective human population to support one another. We are all in this together and there is a bit of beauty in that.

We can survive this. We must keep our heads up, our spirits higher, and our hope alive.

I think the answer to the fear that is running rampant is love. We need more love. I think in the midst of all of this we all need more love in our hearts, for ourselves, and for others. There is enough love to go around.

Since my time of isolation, I have been struggling with my value. I quickly realized I naturally associate my worth as a person to my productivity. And when that was no longer an option, since there is only so much that one can do in a small two bedroom apartment, I reverted back to my belief that my worth is connected to the shape and size of my body. I don’t know if anyone else has struggled with this, but I feel like while I have been in isolation my entire day is dictated by my next meal (it is truly the only schedule that I have in my day right now. LOL.) All of this made my mental space toxic and I realized my internal confidence was pivoting. This time in the world is weird and it is pushing us all to go through an emotional process. I fought to accept that, but I, too, realized I was being impacted emotionally.

The truth is, we all deserve love. We deserve love from every person in our lives. We deserve love from ourselves. We deserve all of the love, simply because we exist.

This concept is something that has been brewing within my mind for the entire month of march: are we, as people, inherently good or bad? Do our actions create our value? I listened to The Liturgists podcast. In the podcast, Dr. Hillary McBride brought up the concept that as a psychologist she believes people are inherently good. If people are inherently good, that makes me inherently good. If people are inherently good, that makes you inherently good.

What if we spent today (lets start small) believing that we were inherently good and we actively spent all day giving love to ourselves? Does a whole day feel overwhelming? (it does to me sometimes) What if for the next ten minutes? Close your eyes. quiet your mind. imagine that you are breathing love in and breathing love out. DO NOT question if you deserve the love. Just accept it.

Regardless of how you are feeling, you are worthy of all of the love (especially love from yourself).

I just want to end by reminding that we are all in this together. And that this whole experience is jarring, overwhelming, and it is okay that this process looks however it does for you. This is life changing for all. So, allow yourself pressure-free isolation. It is okay if you gain weight or lose weight. It is okay if you go on a daily walk or if you don’t. It is okay if you get things done around the house or if you only watch Tiger King. I just want to give you permission. The top priority is staying home and staying safe.

I am sending all of my love.

XO,

M

Ohio Trip Review

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About a month ago, I had the incredible experience of getting to go home for a month. I have not been home for this long in about 5 years. I feel so lucky for this opportunity to connect with family.

On this trip I created a million beautiful little memories and I feel overwhelmed by the thought of them…

I spent some time at my grandparents.

I had a handful of incredible dinners with the family. (Including a thanksgiving dinner!)

I spent some time without electronics.

I spent some time with some of my oldest friends.

I saw snow!

I spent beloved time with my nieces and nephew!

I explored Columbus, OH with a bit more intentionality.

I went to Nashville! (Hear all about that trip here)

Christian came to town!

I failed a time or two.

& I grew in understanding of the beauty of slowing down.

I think that was the big takeaway for me…it is beautiful to slow down and really take the time to enjoy the connections in front of you. It might be slowing down enough to watch the snow fall or maybe it is looking at art in a museum or maybe just some giggles on the couch with your family, but regardless of what it is…there is magic in slowing down.

I am a person that believes if I am not dead, than I can do more. I am constantly doing more things. I always have some sort of task to do: read this book, go to this store, do this assignment, and so much more. I get so caught up in what I could be doing. But, by getting caught up in what would be, I miss the magic of what is.

This trip to Ohio has reminded me to get captured by what is. It isn’t about getting everything done (at least not always). On this trip I wanted to read two different books and finish them before I returned. But, every time I picked one up, something better to do came along. Like, an opportunity to chat with my sister or send time with my momma. And towards the end of the trip I realized what was happening…that I was failing at my to-do list…that I was running out of time. But, I decided I couldn’t give up the simple magic. It was too important.

I guess, I am just saying that maybe our priorities aren’t what they used to be. And to remind you that family is always worth it, that beautiful connection is always worth it.

Young Living 101:

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What is Young Living?

Young Living is a company that has been around for over 20 years. They are the leader in the world of essential oils because of their quality products and the wide range of product. But they sell other products beyond essential oils, too! Young Living has a high value for the standard of their products. They want quality over quantity. They have farms across the globe that help ensure their crops are quality. Their standard for product is what sets Young Living apart from the rest of the essential oil companies.

One of my favorite things about Young Living, as a company, is the connection and support given by the distributors. I follow quite a few of them on social media and I have seen just about every single one of them go out of their way to help people. So many of these people’s lives have been benefitted by Young Living’s products and they simply want to help anyone they can. It is truly a community.

I, also, love how open Young Living is about the business. They are not hiding anything. In my past experience with any MLM it has seemed like they are hiding things and trying to trick me into buying their products. Having said that, Young Living is upfront and honest about how their business works and where the money is going (into the distributors pockets! Instead of paying millions for marketing…)

What are Essential Oils?

Essential oils come from a plants flower, stem, bark, or fruit. Essential Oils are the “life blood” of a plant. These oils are kind of like the immune system of the plant– they are esential to the plants health. Basically, Young Living put these plants through a process to extract the oil (distillation). This oil is then used to benefit humans for all different kinds of issues. Within 20 minutes of use, the oil is in every cell of one’s body. Essential oils are often called “mans first medicine.”

How do you use Essential oils?

Essential oils are actually used throughout normal day things: toothpaste, perfume, lotion, etc. The difference between oils, though, is how they are created and their standard of product. The oils in normal products are often made synthetically, so your body processes it like a toxin, losing the oil’s positive effects for your body.

Essential oils can be used in multiple different ways: aromatically, topically, internally. Essential oils are most commonly known for their ability to be diffused in the air. You can use them directly onto your skin or even ingest them. Some people even cook with them!

(Disclaimer: not ALL oils should be applied directly to the skin without being diluted. Some oils need to be diluted with another oil, like coconut oil, and then applied. Also, not ALL oils should be ingested. YL does have a collection called “vitality oils” that have been FDA approved for consumption)

Why do people use essential oils?

There are soooo many reasons that people use essential oils.

  • People use them as nontoxic replacements for fragrances (perfume, candles, etc.)
  • Aromatherapy
  • To make their own beauty products and cleaning products (which is nice because then you know what is actually in your products).
  • For emotional support (through the limbic system).
  • To help different systems in your body: digestive, nervous, muscular, and more!
  • To help eliminate toxins in your body.
  • To promote healthy, breathable air & remove toxins in the air.

How do you get started with essential oils?

Getting started with essential oils is easy! Young Living has made it simple with their Premium Starter Kit. The premium starter kit has, honestly, everything you could need. It comes with 12 oils, a diffuser, and some of YL’s top selling products (other than oils). The beautiful thing about this kit is that it, honestly, has everything you need to begin your journey!

Here is a couple of photos with the starter kit breakdowns…

How oils work for me and why I am into them?

I grew up with a momma that was an essential oil believer. I used oils to sleep better, fight off sickness, and clear up my breathing.

When I moved out of the house, I left those magic bottles at home. After some time, I began missing them + searching for solutions to life problems (sleep issues, car sickness, headaches, etc). I am the type of person that would rather “power through” than take something to ease the pain. But, I realized how unhelpful that was to my life…I intentionally left myself in discomfort. But I didn’t want to fill myself with the chemicals of medicine. So, in search of solutions, I returned to essential oils. But, only the few that I had truly seen positive results from.

After some time, I began exploring the ideas of better ways to nurture my body. As a part of my self-love journey, I wanted to begin to extend intentional kindness to my body. It led me to essential oils, yet again.

I now use essential oils to help support my emotions + to aid in my internal healing process.

I use essential oils to help me with sickness or physical pain.

I use essential oils to help improve the quality of my life: better sleep, clean air, and nontoxic perfume.

As a Young Living distributor, my goal is to spread the incredible power of these oils. I want others to be aware of a nontoxic option to improve their lives. Another goal is to learn more about oils and how to nurture my body more. Not only do I want to teach others, but I want to get oils in people’s hands, because I truly believe they will improve your life. SO! If you have questions about oils/Young Living, are interested in oils, or just want to talk about them…hit me up! I would LOVE to talk more and help you learn!

If you are interested in buying a starter kit (+ have me as your mentor!) you can click this link, buy a starter kit, and become a member! (becoming a member simply means you have a YL account + get a 24% discount on your purchases!).

If you want to follow my journey + learn more with me you can follow my Instagram: @SmellyGalEssentials

D I S C L A I M E R :

Suggestions made on this website are are specific to Young Living and should not be used with any other essential oils. Statements made here have not be evaluated by the FDA. This information and these products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent and disease. Anyone suffering from disease or injury should consult a physician. If you are currently taking medication, please do not stop taking it. We do not take the place of your health care professional. Seek your licensed health care professional about your medications and possible interactions with what you are currently taking.  

A Momentary Hesitation

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One thing I know to be true about myself, is that I long to create waves. Creating waves in peoples thoughts, lives, or the societal systems. But, I have always had this internal battle of wanting to make waves, but not wanting to be an inconvenience.

I was so afraid of inconveniencing people that I began to quiet my inner voice that challenged me to splash in the oceans of life. I became a follower. I went with the flow. I stopped questioning things.

A few months ago, some things happened in my life that began to open me up to new concepts. It began to tug on my mind, reminding me of how wildly I used to think out of the box.

The other day I was talking to a dear friend. He had no idea the season I have been in but he told me that he believed that asking questions was one of the best ways for humans to love themselves.

Since he said that to me, I have realized my questions have majorly increased. That statement opened me up to ask the tough questions. I am questioning why I believe the things I believe. I am questioning what I think is best for me. I am questioning how I want to exist in this world. It is a journey that feels scary, wild, and a bit lonely.

Yesterday I was given the sweetest gift. It was a bag full of positive, inspiring, and timely things, along with a note that gave me the words to describe my season: a pause.
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A momentary hesitation.

The path that I am walking of true discovery is completely worth it. I am so proud of myself for being brave enough to begin to ask questions. But in this process I have had a momentary hesitation.

A momentary hesitation to examine each element of my life.

A momentary hesitation to rediscover my beliefs.

A momentary hesitation to be confident in my conclusions.

I have taken a moment to slow down enough to ask. To take the time necessary to reeeally ask myself what I think about things.

I restarted the book You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. She says, “All this to say that its not your fault you’re fucked up. It’s your fault if you stay fucked up…” I was moved.

It isn’t my fault that others think a certain way. It isn’t my fault that I naturally am inclined to specific beliefs. But, it is my responsibility to decide what I want to think.  It is my responsibility to look at the details of my life and ask the questions. It is my responsibility to feel fully confident in each and every aspect of my life.

I get to be powerfully and completely in control of how I will manage my life.

I challenge you to ask the tough questions that are needed for your life, your situation, and your discovery.

Ask.

Even if its scary.

Even if your voice shakes.

Ask the questions.

 

XO,

M

PS: What questions are YOU asking? Let me know in the comments. Also, did you know you can subscribe to my blog? If you subscribe then each new blog post will be sent directly to your email.

Crashing Over Me

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Life is unpredictable. Sometimes we are laying in the sunshine and sand, content and managing everything super well. But other times we are being rocked and rolled, slamming into the rocks on the sea shore. We are constantly moving with the ebbs and flows of life.

I am the type of person that aims to accomplish. I aim to be successful. I feel great when I am successful. Often times success, to me, looks like handling my responsibilities completely and not feeling overwhelmed by my responsibilities. Which creates problems, since I am also the type of person that loves to accept more responsibilities. I am constantly inviting in more responsibility, making it harder and harder to manage it all, making me feel less and less successful.

When you have the perspective of success directly correlating to responsibility, I think it pushes us to hold onto those responsibilities too tightly. We cling to our responsibilities, fighting to hold onto them in order to prove to ourselves that we are worthy. We are looking for our worth to be proven.

Despite it being natural for me to think that my responsibilities are directly linked to my value, I think my thinking is wrong. I think that the two things are not remotely linked. I think each of us simply have innate value. And I think we are given responsibilities. But I do not think that our value has anything to do with our responsibilities.

What if I don’t hold so tightly to things that encourage the thinking that I must do in order to value myself? What if I accepted my innate right of value and used that to do incredible things?

What if I stopped holding my life tightly within my hands, suffocating each aspect of my life, but instead I keep my hand opened, allowing the ebbs and flows of life.

Tight grips are all about fear, open hands are about expectations. I want to live with more open hands.

This week I am learning, I am choosing, to open my hands in another area of my life. I am choosing that I am worthy, simply because I Am. I am choosing to trust the greater good, instead of my own plans. I am expecting incredible things from my life, not because of what I can do, but because I believe in it. I believe in myself and I believe in my future.

Is anyone else having to learn to let go and surrender? Is anyone else learning to love the ebbs and flows of life? I am…even when the wave crashes hard.

Thank you for reading!

XO,

M

Out of the Nest

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Remember last week when I wrote about how my life was turning upside down and I was being totally introspective? Well, things have continued that way this past week. I have been caught in the ebbs and flows of major life decisions.

I am so thankful for people, friends & family, that are supportive of my life. That truly want the best for me. This week, I was amazed by the support I have been given. Despite the support, the decisions I make are simply on me. They are up to me to decide.

Friends, relationships, are such a quirky topic. Friends add an incredible brilliance to one’s life, but they can also totally rain on everything.

Growing up I struggled with friends. I had a few, but not many stuck around for long. I think people liked me, but I only had a few people that I could truly call “friend”. After high school, I moved to California, I had better luck with friends…as in, I had more friends than before. But, again, they didn’t necessarily stay.

As life has continued, I have found that true friends show themselves in simple ways. They let you borrow their bathtub and text you everyday when your nephew is sick and they let you say selfish, mean things without thinking that you are selfish and mean. Friends stick with you, even when you act like an ass. Friends remind you of who you are. Friends support your wild, crazy, and maybe a little irrational dreams.

This week I got to talk with some of my best friends this week. I let them in to this process that I have been in…the decisions I am considering and reconsidering. I told them about my dreams that seem foolish. The ones that seem dumb to even consider. and get this…

they didn’t laugh at me.

or judge me.

or question my sanity…

they believed in me.

They supported my wild ideas and agreed with my crazy thinking.

I am so blessed to have friends like this. I realized that good friends push you out of the nest. Ya know how birds learn to fly? They get pushed out of the nest. One day at a time, my friends are teaching me to fly. They are refusing to let me stay within the safety of my nest…but instead, I am learning to spread my shaky wings and soar.

I want to be a friend like that.

Let me know how your friends have pushed you out of your nest of safety in the comments below! Thanks for reading!

XO,

M

What to do: Life Crisis

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Ya know those moments, in life, where you feel like you are reconsidering everything? Those moments where you are reevaluating who you are, what you’re doing, how you’re going to accomplish life, why are you doing what you’re currently doing? Welcome to my last two weeks…

I have been back in Cincinnati, Ohio (where I am from & where my immediate family is) for the last two weeks. Each time I come home, I feel as though I can finally exhale. I feel like I can take a pause on my “real” life in order to find peace again or explore my options. This trip home, though, there has been no rock unturned.

I have been evaluating my job, my education, my relationships, my future, my dreams, my 5 year plan, my personal identity, and more.

Do I want to keep working at my job? Do I want to change my major? What do I want to do with the rest of my life? Who do I want to be? Do I like where I live? Are my friends adding positive things to my life? Am I sure? Am I sure? Am I sure? Am I sure?

There has been a lot of self-doubt. There has been a lot of questions. There has been a lot of emotions. It has, honestly, been a really taxing experience.

I have discovered that I am at a fork in the road.

I have every possible choice within my grasp and I simply get to choose what I want.

As someone who prides herself on her core value’s about self-love, self-connectedness, and listening to one’s heart…you would think that the answer of what do I want would come easy to me. Wrong.

I have had to fight for the last two weeks to distinguish what my heart is saying. It was easy to hear the voices of my parents, or my bosses, or the self-critic. But it wasn’t easy to hear my quiet and insecure voice.

Have you ever been at this spot? This confused, clueless, and seemingly helpless spot? (I know that I am not alone!) Well, I am sharing all this for Y O U ! (and for me the next time I get to this place)

What to do when You’re Clueless AF?

Step One: Journal

Journal out all of your thoughts, feelings, concerns, etc. Write out (personally I recommend by hand…because it forces you to really look at your thoughts) all the mumbo-jumbo floating through your brain. GET. IT. ALL. OUT. Even the ugly stuff, or the silly stuff, or the seemingly unimportant stuff…write it all down.

 

Step Two: The Goal of Identity

Who are you? Who is it that you want to be? When you imagine your future, what kind of human are you? Write it down. This is the first puzzle piece of your answers.

Who you want to be is the goal for your character. It is the vision board of where you want to head.

 

Step Three: The Results are in

Take some personality tests. The reason I love personality tests so much is because they give words to things you’ve thought or felt that you might not have had language for. For example… I took the Strength Finders test and discovered that one of my top 5 strengths is Connectedness. This means that I believe there are links between all things in life and that everything has a reason. Knowing this about myself explains so much to me. It shows me that believing in connections isn’t an odd thing I do, but it is part of who I am and it is part of what I bring to the table. This test helped me learn a bit more about myself!

Myers Briggs: This test is incredible because it not only tells you about your personality, but it also tells you how you act in friendships, romantic relationships, work, and which careers would be good for you.

Enneagram: This test was interesting because I discovered that I am a Type 1. Type 1’s are called “The Reformers.” They are fixated on perfection, responsibility, and are constantly looking for improvement. These results are totally me, but I had a hard time hearing that. The qualities that I shared (perfectionist, high responsibility, and are constantly looking for improvement) are qualities that I have always resented in myself. I don’t like that I am constantly trying to look for improvement in myself or others. I don’t like that I am always striving for perfection. Despite the difficulty of accepting this personality type, I have taken these results are a positive thing within my life. Knowing this is the type of person I am, allows me to own it more and allows me to give grace to myself when those aspects of who I am rise up.

 

Step Four: Pros VS. Cons

I know this advice is a little overused, but it is honestly so helpful. Make a pros and cons list. Simplify the positives and negatives to each decision and organize then. Making a pros and cons list has helped me recognize what is important to me and what isn’t important. The list does not have to be long, just a few short things to help you see the decision for what it is.

I did this in trying to decide which degree I should pursue. Until I made the list, I had so many positive and negative thoughts about every possible major, but making the list allowed me to actually see the positives and negatives.

 

Step Five: Moments of Peace

My last little piece of advice would be to find your place of peace. It might be late in the night, or early in the morning. Maybe it is in the chaos of a city street or maybe it is within a coffee shop’s four walls. Whatever that place is, it is the place where your thoughts seem clear.

For me, it is the morning time. Just me & a cup of coffee.

When you get to your place of peace…it isn’t time to over think but it is a time to expect the best…to expect answers.

 

Step Six: Repeat Steps 1-5 as many times as necessary

 

As someone that is still very much within these steps… I’ll keep y’all updated on more things and keys that help me. But, I think I have gotten over the hump of the chaos. Sometimes life can be so difficult. But, it is encouraging knowing I am not alone.

Let me know your tips and tricks for making major life choices and for reevaluating your life!

Thanks for reading!

XO,

M

The Never Ending Possibilities

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Recently Christian (the boyfriend) has been talking about wanting to accomplish his goals. He has goals and tasks to accomplish that he has been putting off for, who knows how long. But he has decided to begin to cross those things off the ever-growing list of life’s to-dos. Over the last couple of weeks, I have watched him accomplish these things that he has wanted for so long.

His are as simple as building a pedal board, to as intricate as editing youtube videos, and as deep as beginning to take some online training classes. I have felt really inspired to simply go after those things that I want.

Something I have always wanted to do was create more. So, I am slowly trying to do that. I had a friend get married and so I made her & her husband a gift as opposed to just buying one. I have two big canvases that I am going to cover & repaint this summer, or at least I plan to.

I have been trying to go after new healing with my body and my attire. I have tried new styles and different kinds of outfits. I have sent multiple photos to my stylish little sister asking if I am achieving the trend/style that I am going for. But, despite my lack of confidence, I have done it. I have knotted my hair, my shirts, and bought new pairs of shoes. I have rocked the over-sized graphic tees, but also have tried to find confidence in showing off my shoulders. I plan to make small steps to continue to find creativity within my closet.

I have wanted to solidify relationships. Strengthening the ones that are already blossoming and nurture the ones that are growing. I feel like I am going out to coffee with someone every day, which is exhausting at times. But I am trying to find the balance of connection with others and connection with myself.

I have wanted to fall deep in love with pursuing my spirituality, again. It is something that I have always pursued, even when the fire hasn’t been there…but it hasn’t been something that I am always in love with. I have begun to listen to podcasts, talk about spiritual things with friends, and have begun to mediate (fix my mind) on Love.

If I am being totally honest…another goal/dream I have is to figure out my relationship with food and exercise. I hate having to share that, but it’s true. My relationship with food has been a difficult one. I have learned, over the years, that I am an emotional eater. And I have an irrational fear of moving my body. I have fought for years to grow in my love for myself and my body (learn more about my whole story here!) and I have grown so much in that. But, when I think about my goals I think about how I want to get to a better place with those things. I want to feel good in my skin. I want to strengthen my body. And I want to fuel my body with good things. But, I am scared.

Another wise moment from Christian was when he told me to stop worrying about the what-ifs. I had this overwhelming concern about the working out and the learning to eat well. What if I fail? What if I am doing it for the wrong reasons? What if I mess up?

But, what if I succeed?

I think the point in crossing these things off of our lists is not about accomplishing, but I think it is about trying. It is about trying to go after the things in front of us. The things that have been nagging on us. The things that pull on our hearts.

What if I tried to go after these things? What if I tried to find a healthy balance in my eating and exercise? What if I tried to create more?

The other day I was talking to a friend that was struggling. She is battling an intense war for her hope and she was having a hard day. I sent her a video of me reminding her that the day was almost over and a new day would begin again tomorrow. A new day full of new blessings, new opportunities, and new hope. It was in that moment that I realized that each challenge, every single one, is contained within a single day. Each day we get an opportunity to have a different attitude and perspective.

THAT is our challenge. Our challenge is to just do our best each day. Our challenge is to pursue our lists of goals and dreams each day. It is about making small steps towards crossing those things off. It is not about accomplishing everything.

So, today I created. Today, I ate ice cream. Today, I was happy. Today, I fought against the afternoon grumpiness. Today I did my best.

So, What are you trying in your life? Let me know in the comments below!

XO,

M

Hitting the Target of Self Love

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Yesterday I had a couple hours of unexpected free time. So I want to Target (classic). I have an upcoming wedding to go to and need an outfit to wear. I raided their women’s clothing section on the hunt for an outfit.

With a pile of clothes in my hands, I went into the dressing room.

I don’t know if anyone else experiences this, but I basically hate dressing rooms. It seems that the lighting within the dressing rooms always accentuate my “flaws.” My cellulite is always louder and prouder than any other time. I seem to always discover new curves and rolls. Also, dressing rooms can be fairly discouraging when nothing ends up working out.

When I entered the dressing room there was absolutely no one in sight. I thought to myself about how pleasant this experience was going to be…just a girl surrounded by some cute clothes. (Positive self-talk for the win!)

About half way through my stack of clothes, with nothing fitting right, two girls entered the dressing room. As they walked in, I heard them critique their bodies.

“At least things fit you. Nothing fits me,” one said.

While the other went, “Not really! I don’t have a butt. Things don’t look right”

As they went on their negative rants…I froze in my own little room. My heart broke hearing their self-criticisms. It stopped me in my tracks because I was having those same thoughts about myself.

I wanted to tell the girls that regardless of what their body looked like, they deserve love.

Regardless of what my body looks like, I deserve love.

Regardless of what your body looks like, you deserve love.

It was a really sad experience. But it was eye opening. I guess it reminded me that we are all a work in progress. We all have things to work on. We all have criticism towards ourselves. But my goal is to change that. I don’t want to have any negativity towards myself. I don’t want you to have any negativity towards yourself.

Recently, I have wanted to develop my fashion more. I have been feeling this urge to take bigger risks in my attire and this whole experience pushed me to do that. (Please appreciate this selfie of me in the Target dressing room wearing my oversized Steve from  Blue’s Clues sweater)

Does it really matter if I have a butt? Or that none of the dresses I tried on at Target seemed to fit right? Does it really matter that I have rolls or cellulite? Does it really matter if my outfit is trendy?

Ultimately, it doesn’t.

I want to live bold and fearless, which includes in my style and loving my body just the way it is.

Let me know your favorite part of your body down in the comments!!

XO,

M

Let the Flowers Grow

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This week is our final week of our discipleship program (where I work) for the 2017-2018 school year. Today I was asked to share my “life-message” and a final message to our students.

How do you sum up all the potential life encouragement into one short message?

I would say that my life message is all about learning to nurture oneself. I believe that we all are a three part being: body, soul, and spirit. And I believe that it is pivotal that we nurtureeach part of our being.

Nurturing yourself looks like checking your soil. It looks like checking the environment that you are surrounding yourself in. Are the habits, relationships, and the media that watching/listening to pushing you to the environment that you want? Are those things pushing you to be the person that you want to be?

Nurturing yourself looks like letting sunshine into your heart. Nurturing yourself looks like letting yourself really look into your heart to see the pains, dreams, desires and opinions that are held within your heart. It looks like giving the deserved attention to the things in your heart. Nurturing yourself looks like healing the wounds, valuing the desires, sticking up for the opinions, and believing in the dreams.

Nurturing yourself looks like watering yourself. This looks like practically giving your body the things it needs (good foods, movement, love). It, also, looks like pursuing things that fill your spirit (worship, meditation, learning). Lastly, it looks like putting in time and effort towards your passions and hobbies (creating, sports, learning).

Nurturing yourself looks like giving yourself patience, grace, and space to grow. Growing requires energy to get taller and stronger. But it also means sometimes growing dead leaves. Sometimes we fail (it happens to all of us) but we need to give patience and grace and kindness to ourselves when we do grow dead leaves.

Nurturing yourself looks like allowing yourself to bloom. This means to allow yourself to press in to the good things life has in store for you. This means believing the good things said about you. It means accepting the opportunities that you have. It means not running away from the good things, it means running toward them. It, also, means allowing the world to see your petals. Don’t shy away from being seen, but embrace it.

Nurturing yourself looks like moving with the breeze of the spirit realm (whatever that looks like for you). It looks like being in-tune with what the spirit is doing.

Nurturing yourself looks like growing seeds of love and spreading them around. It looks like expressing love to all those around you.

And it looks like receiving the new seeds of love that enter your life.

Thanks for reading!! Let me know how YOU nurture yourself in the comments below!

XO,

M